He needs to feel like a King in his castle, the head of the family, the boss, the CEO, the hero, the provider.This one is very hard for me. Very, very hard. I am definitely the dominate personality in our relationship, and I came from a family where my mother was the more dominate parent. (I am not saying that she was over bearing, or domineering). In my husbands family his mother was the more dominate also. As you can see it is easy for us to slip into those roles.
I tend to run head long into things without thinking about how my husband is going to feel about my plans. I start projects, make plans, make decisions and make goals without his in-put. That isn’t how it should be if he is the head of our home. That doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t be thinking of all that stuff, I just need to make sure I am asking him first before I commit to anything. This is something I am still working on, and something I will most likely always be working on.
I think it all comes down to respect.
Do I treat him with respect?
Am I showing him respect? 
Do I treat him with respect?
Do I talk to him respectfully?
Do I talk about him respectfully?
Do I treat his thoughts, feeling and actions with respect?
I would have to say that I do very little of all of these things. How can I expect my children to honor their father if I am not honoring him. Hmmmm, something to think about.
My husband is not a natural leader so I try to guide him a little in that area. We have family scripture study in the morning over breakfast. It was my idea, and I think I am primary in making it happen; however, he leads it. He does all the scripture reading, I want the girls to see him as our spiritual leader. (A little side note here, I will always cherish the gospel discussions that my family had with my Dad. I could listen to him for hours, and he was always willing to discuss with us any gospel topic, or question we had.) When we have family home evening (the important word is when!) he always leads the evening and gives the lesson.
So while I think that I can improve vastly in this area of respect, there are something I feel that I am doing right. Everything else is a work in progress!
Good job again. I agree. It’s funny because yesterdays post was my big, “Oh I have lots of work to do” reminder. Todays I do pretty good with. In fact Trav. sometimes gets upset that I don’t just do minor things without asking first. It’s funny how we all have the same views but different things to work on. It just goes to show that your can’t judge yourself against anybody else because you see their outsides but your own insides. Thanks for the great posts this week.
I’ve been enjoying this series of posts. I think the best relationships are where there is respect. I should work on this too!
Thanks for this series! I’m really enjoying it and it’s giving me a good opportunity to reflect on the things I need to improve on. (LOTS of things I need to improve on!)
I have been out of touch lately..but I read your last few poststoday and I totally agree with you. I agree with Dr. Laura too…I firmly velieve that what WE (as women) do directly reflects how we get treated by our husbands. The nicer we are, the more we pay attention to their needs, the more attractive we make ourselves…etc..the MORE that our husbands will reciprocate. I love President Hinckleys quote when he said that “If every man and every wife would make the comfort and well being of his or her spouse their firswt priority there would be very little, if any, divorce.” I can’t really express my feelings very well, but you did a great job and i AGREE!!
I can SO relate to your thoughts. I think my hubby is very similar to yours in alot of ways, and I have to make concious efforts to shut my mouth, and let HIM lead! Loved the pictures too!
BTW….
happy birthday to you!
happy birthday to you!
happy birthday dear friend!
happy birthday to you!!!!
Thanks Casey, you are the first friend (besides family) to wish me a Happy Birthday.
I agree with your last posts and BTW I think you do a great job~
I love your blog! My mom came upon it and told me about it…now we are hooked! I have recently started a Bible study with a group of wonderful women on the book “Created to be his Help Meet.” It goes along with so many things you have said in your last few posts. It is so exciting to think about what we as women can do to make the world a better place! (Or at least the corner we live in!) I would love to put your blog on my list of favs if you wouldn’t mind! Have a wonderful week!
This is such a beautiful series Aimee. I was especially taken by the “soft place to land” part. It’s nice to know our instinctive longing to create softness in the home really ~does~ mean something. So does the (deep down anyway) instinctive longing to trust and follow. Funny how we are truly designed to give what our partners what they need.
Peaceful day to you : ) Wendy
Chrissy, please feel free to link to my blog. I can’t find your personla blog, I could only find the one you are doing about your friend (beautiful blog BTW). I would like to see your personal one too!