Evenings

“…Establish a house, even a house of prayer, a house of
fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of order, a house of
God.”

Doctrine and Covenants 88:119

 

 

My Evening schedule came to be about a year ago. After we had been reading scriptures for a while in the morning we felt like it wasn’t quite enough. Dadzoo would read a chapter while the kids were eating, and while that was good, it wasn’t as good as it could be. We still continued to read in the morning, however we tried to add some study in the evening. Tried is the key word here, it just never seemed to happen. Since having a morning schedule seemed to work so well I decided to implement an evening schedule.

Here is the rough schedule we are working on right now. It isn’t totally complete yet, I am still tweaking it a little, I have added a some new things from last year and I was able to take off “homework” for my two oldest (yay!).
5:45-6:00 Check Stewardships.
(I like the house to be picked up when Dadzoo gets home)
6:00-6:30 Dinner
6:30-7:00 Clean up dinner and bath Tom
(every child has a weekly dinner stewardship: Setting the Table, Clearing the Table, Rinsing dishes, and Bathing Tom)
7:00-7:15 Scripture Study and Family Prayer
7:15-7:45 Tom to bed, baths and homework
7:45-8:00ish Family Reading time
(This is new this fall, and so far we are loving it, right now I am reading Tom Sawyer out loud to the kids, it is a part of being a “house of learning”)
8:30 Bed, the children may read if they would like
9:00 lights out, no exceptions
(Momzoo turns into a witch after 9:00 and nobody really wants to see that)

This is what works for us for now, at this time in our lives. Our evenings are fairly empty and as far as I am concerned I am going to try to keep it this way. On evenings where either Dadzoo or I are not home, the other keeps to the schedule as much as possible. This has become a wonderful time for our family. We laugh together and we learn together, it warms my heart to her my girls giggling over Tom Sayers and Dadzoo’s deep laugh in the background.
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Homeschool Schedule

Morning, Part Deux

Answering some questions about our morning schedule

My good friend Katie said:

What time do the kiddies head off for the bus. It’s always been between 7:30 and 8:00 to get the kids out the door around here (and this year it’s about 7:15 for the oldest), so I can’t even IMAGINE getting up early enough to do all you do. We have a morning devotional, get dressed, make a good breakfast, etc. but it makes me tired to even think of adding instrument practice and steward ships done as well. My kids are slow-goers and need a lot of time to do what they have to do or there are melt downs. One of my friends has a similar routine to yours and they have to get up at 5:00 to get it all done. Yikes! You are amazing!

I have one child that has to catch the bus in the morning, we leave the house at 8:30 and while the older kids are watching the little kids I walk her to the bus stop. My homeschooled kids don’t start school until 9:30, so there is plenty of time to get our stuff done in the morning. If I had to have the kids out by 7:00 the schedule would adjust! My 2nd grader and Kindergartner get home at 4:00, so free time in the afternoon is limited, considering dinner is at 6:00.

One of my favoritest blogging buddies Erika said:

That’s cute. We have a different way we do it but same concept but I like the neatness of the way you put it together. And stewardship sounds much better than chores! I think our chore wheel will be called the stewardship wheel from now on. And a FHE on stewardship would be a good way to kick it off.We love starting the day eating bfast together and reading the scriptures it starts the day off so well doesn’t it?

I have to agree, the feeling in our home is so different from what it was before.

Lisa said:

i can’t believe you call those stewardships!! we called them that growing up and now i call them that to my own kids! can you give me an example of what their stewardships consist of in the morning? what about for those that go to school? is the schedule the same? and do they have chores in the afternoon too? maybe you’ll be doing an afternoon schedule for us too? i could so relate to you in how you used to send your girls to school. i’m doing better this year but wow did i feel guilty most days last year!

Here is the list of stewardships:
Hall & Entryway
Bathroom
Tom’s Room
Living Room
Bedroom

Very simple. This list doesn’t include the evening stewardships, the dishes are included in those. I will be posting and evening schedule tomorrow, as for the afternoon between 4:00 and 5:45ish is free time. I think that the kids need time to decompress after school and just have free play. At 4:00 when the kids get home from public school there is a small snack then they are sent outside to play. As for the morning schedule for my 2nd graders, it is pretty much the same, excepting at 8:30 she is out the door on her way to school.

I hope this helps a little. I know that if we all prayerfully seek help in the managment of our homes the Lord will direct us.

Morning

My morning schedule has evolved over the last few years. It all started because I didn’t like how I was sending my two oldest daughters off to school. My days would start with me rolling out of bed with just enough time to get the girls out the door to the bus and it would go something like this:

“Get up!”
“Hurry, eat” (sugary cereal)
“Hurry, Hurry”
“You need to pick up your room”
“Get dressed, hustle up!”
“Your room isn’t done yet!? HURRY!”
“Brush your teeth, you are going to miss your bus.”
“Argh,, find your gloves, Hurry up.”
“Bye (kiss) run you are going to miss your bus!”

Shutting door, the house is a mess I am all flustered and I feel huge amounts of guilt for sending my girls off for the day in a rushed, contentious huff. This is not how things should be.

So I decided that I would get up a little earlier and at least make something nutritious for breakfast. So I did, and it was nice, but we were still very rushed and thing were not as they should be.

Thinking it over I decided that we really needed to add in family prayer, with Dad. That involved getting up even earlier, but I was determined to do it, and I did. Now we were all getting up at 6:30 eating a good breakfast together, the whole family and praying together. Then it occurred to me that while the kids hands and mouths were busy we could quickly do a little scripture reading. So it evolved into a morning tradition that we have all come to love.

This worked for a while, but after breakfast was finished it was still a mad dash for the door, the kids trying to get piano practiced, rooms cleaned and dressed in time. They were bickering over who got the piano first and who needed to clean what. While the morning had gotten better and I felt we were off to a great start I knew we could do so much better. I had read on other blogs about ladies that had schedules for their days and initially I had balked at the idea, but the more I thought about it the more I came to believe that a morning schedule would be the answer to my problem.

I sat down and I figured out a schedule that would work for us, and it did, really well. I think the kids do better when they know what is expected and at what times. By no means does it solve all the bickering and there are some days that we are very behind, but it gives us structure and guidance.

Here is a picture of our current morning schedule.

This is posted on the refrigerator for everyone to see. Here is a close up of one of the kids morning schedule. There is plenty of time for her to get her chores done and this particular child has learned that if she really hurries she will have extra time to play, she also like to be sneaky and clean her room before she come up for breakfast.

Tucked into each of their schedules is their “stewardship” for the week. These get changed every Monday morning. We believe that all we have and are is because of our Heavenly Father. Through Him we have been blessed with a wonderful home and life and it is our “stewardship” to care for those blessing. So each child is given a “stewardship” for the week, a place in our home that they are to care for.

This is what works for us, and I have found that we have been blessed as we have been working towards having a house of order.

“…Establish a house, even a house of prayer, a house of fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of order, a house of God.”
Doctrine and Covenants 88:119

Getting Started

since i have now read that you are an organized, structured person and i can tell that is true…i am curious to know more about that. especially now that school is starting. what is a typical day’s schedule? and what is a typical week’s schedule? when do you do laundry? when do you clean your bathrooms? i am not an organized person and i am not structured and i want to be. do you think it is possible to become such a person? how do you stay up on all that you HAVE to do so that you can take on more things that you WANT or SHOULD BE DOING? ~Lisa

I had a couple of people ask me about my scheduling and routine. I am flattered that people who don’t know me think that I am organised. My Mom hearing this would probably laugh out loud! I have the reputation in my family of being sort of a scatter brain. (That is the sad thing about reputations, once they are set it is hard to break out of them.) Truth being told, I was a very unorganised person and it has only been the last few years that I have learned to schedule myself. I have learned that children do better and behave better if they know what to expect everyday and at different times of the day. There are no surprises, my girls know that when they wake up they are to get dressed and sit up for breakfast, after breakfast they work on piano or stewardship’s (depending on the child) everyday.

There are some aspects of my life that are more organised than others. If you were to take a peek in my closet or on my desk and you would see that I need a lot of help in those areas. I am much better at organising my time.

Another thing I would like to say. My scheduling works for me at this time a season in my life. I have done different things during different time. When I had 4 little ones, 5 years old and under my schedule was very basic and consisted of nap times, meal times and bed times.

Over the next few days I am going to share with you all my schedules. There are 4 main schedules that run my life: Morning, Evening, Homeschool, and Weekly. I will also be writing a post in answer to this question:

Also, I’d love to hear about your earlier days as a homemaker, and how you made things work with very small children around. ~Mrs. Mordecai

So join me in the next few days as I open the day-to-day details of my life.

That kind of Mom

I have become “that” kind of Mom

sigh….

I swore I never would,

but I did it.

You know the kind of mom I am talking about. The type that has to pack separate snacks for their kid when they go to a party because there might be corn syrup in the food, or food dyes, or milk or…..etc…..

Yes, yes

that is ME!

My oldest daughter has ADHD and we have been treating it for several years with medication that seem to help. In the last year we have added a couple more medications because her symptoms have become increasingly hard to manage. I have wavered a lot on my level of comfort with her medications. On one hand they do help, a lot, they make her behavior manageable and her social skills better, on the other hand she is taking some powerful psychotropic medications and I wondered if we were just covering up the problems instead of teaching her to cope.

At the first of the year I visited a “witch doctor” (really she is a Nurse Practitioner who does Biofeedback) and she healed my chronic fatigue (thyroid). I decided to take my oldest daughter and see what she had to say. We found out that she is very sensitive to cow milk, corn syrup (and any other highly processed sweetener, like cane sugar and fructose) , peanuts and artificial sweeteners.

Pretty much anything that is found in a package.

Which isn’t much of a problem, I am a “from scratch” kind of gal…but…I do use a lot of milk and sugar in my cooking.

It has been a bit of an adjustment, but not too painful. She uses Goat milk or almond milk and honey for sweetener (going to get some agave nectar soon). In my cooking I too have switched to honey and Goat milk (I need to find someone who has a goat…). We also have started to wean her off the medication, and have added some supplements. There has also been a lot of prayer.

So what have we found a week later? I am cautiously optimistic. We won’t see the full effect yet, she is still on her medications, but some very promising things have happened. On Friday evening we went to an event, an open house for the newest LDS Temple, she was great (her medication had worn off by this point, usually I would have given her a booster pill, but I didn’t) until I let her have a cookie at the end, about 15 minuets later she was bouncing off the walls! I thought it was an interesting occurrence and took note of it. On Sunday we were at my parents house and she sat quietly and visited, a little angel, typically she would have been causing all sorts of trouble with her cousins and would have been banned to the corner. Our evenings have been calmer and she is more obedient.

I am excited that this just might work.

So, I guess I am “that” kind of mom!